Childhood traumas, family and individual crises, and self-destructive scenarios often feel like irreversible life sentences, but they can be transformed from within.
I guess I would say I’m inherently curious about what makes people tick. That’s a fine trait to an extent, but our work is ultimately not about my active listening skills, brilliant advice, or shrewd psychotherapeutic interpretations. Rather, the focus of the work is about the client; not about my wisdom or ability to “change” behavior.
As Richard Schwartz wrote, and I would agree, effective treatment is about how and when we arrive at understanding different parts of ourselves. Acknowledging those different parts and appreciating them marks the beginning of important changes.
Sooner than later, what once felt like paralyzing anger or sadness no longer feels that way. Wounded marriages and relationships open to healing and forgiveness. Derailed careers regain their passion. A life rich in “creativity, compassion, curiosity, confidence, connectedness, courage, and clarity” becomes possible again. (“C” words, the qualities of SELF described in Schwartz’s work).
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I look forward to talking with you personally.
–Valery
